Divorce and Pregnancy
November 19, 2009 by Diane Greene
Filed under parenting, Stepfamilies
An interesting article caught my attention today in The Indiana Lawyer’s November edition entitled “Common Misconception” written by Rebecca Berfanger. In her article, Ms. Berfanger discusses the misconception in Indiana among people that couples cannot get divorced in Indiana if the wife discloses that she is pregnant. She discusses that the basis for this common misconception is likely due in large part to an Indiana statute that requires couples, at the time of filing for divorce, to disclose if the wife is pregnant. The article goes on to say that with this disclosure, it is ultimately up to the Judge and the circumstances of the case as to whether he or she will grant the divorce.
As I read on, the article specifically notes that in Central Indiana attorneys say that it is extremely rare for a Judge to grant a divorce to a couple with a pregnant wife. It goes on to say that the reason for requiring this disclosure is due to the public policy issues of having children born outside of a marriage, including who is responsible for the child in terms of financial support, custody and visitation. However, some Judges will grant the divorce and bifurcate the other issues until after the child is born.
Obviously, there are all kinds of reasons why people choose to divorce, but after reading this article, my first thought was “what if the relationship is abusive?” The article mentions that if this reason is presented to the court, a Judge may still require a couple to wait until after the child is born, but obviously, other protections can be put into place. The whole article can be read in its entirety at www.theindianalawyer.com.
BFSO readers, I would love to hear your opinions and feelings about this issue. Do you feel that a couple should be restricted on divorcing if there is a pregnancy involved? I look forward to hearing from you.
Peace & Blessings,
Di


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I am glad you brought this subject to light. I had no idea that you were still able to get divorced if you were pregnant.
On March 4, 1998 I filed for divorce and the divorce was final in July of that same year. In March I was asked if I was pregnant prior to filing. I actually was pregnant but did not reveal that due to the huge issues we were having in our marriage and I was not going to hinder the divorce process.
Looking back it is sad now that I had to do that. I was 22 and so scared and wanted out of that situation so badly. I wish I had a resource like this or another legal outlet to turn to. Even though I had a lawyer and he didn’t I still don’t feel I was advised very well.
Thanks for the post!!!
Thank you so much for your comment. I am sure there are many more young women that went through the same hinderance that you had to. I think that when this statute was written, it was written with the unborn child’s best interest in mind, but unfortunately, especially in a dangerous situation, it can be a hinderance to a parent. Again, thank you for commenting and sharing. Hopefully, this post can enlighten someone else who may happen to now be in the shoes you once walked in.
Di