Kela and I personally want to extend out a huge Happy Father’s Day to all of the wonderful fathers and stepfathers who hold their families together! We know that your job isn’t easy but you certainly deserve to be thanked, not just on this day, but every single day that you work hard to maintain the bonds that you create with your children and stepchildren.
Kela and I grew up very different situations. She never experienced having a stepfather in her life. What she did have was a wonderful, loving, caring and beautiful relationship with her own father. In small talk, Kela and I have shared a lot about the relationship a young girl has with her father and all of Kela’s expectations were attained by the wonderful example her father set for her early on in her life. Kela’s father passed away a few years back but what truly wonderful gifts, pure love and memories he has left with her for a lifetime.
I, on the other hand, experienced divorce at the early age of 6 years old. I believe my mother remarried when I was 8 or so and was divorced again by the time I was 12. My experience was different because I don’t feel as if I was ever really able to have that true bonding time with my dad and my stepfather just wasn’t around long enough to establish same. Without the presence of that bonding, at times I have felt like I “missed out.” However, I do remember how special my dad was to me as a little girl and when I went to live with him for a stint in my early teenage years and I am still lucky to have my dad in my life now.
The lesson here in this post that I am trying to put across is simple. Dads and stepdads, you play an important role in the lives of your children and your stepchildren. They are watching you and learning from your examples. Kela told me something that was powerful. While growing up, she and her dad would have long one-on-one conversations, he always showed her he loved her and her brother and spent time with each of them individually. Her dad sent her flowers here and there, opened doors for her and made her understand that she was to be treated no less by anyone. Kela’s father was not just making her feel good, he was teaching her that she was worthy of love and respect and in a round-about way, how a man should treat a woman. What a powerful lesson!
Kela and I both have fabulous husbands that are fathers and stepfathers in the lives of our children. Our husbands have been there for the long-haul, in the good times and during the trying times in our stepfamily journeys. We are so lucky to have them. I would like to thank my husband for all that he has done for me and my children and for the example he is settng for my boys. Without him, our lives would be very different.
Dads and stepdads, Today’s Modern Family takes their hats off to you! Keep setting those examples and making those wonderful memories for your children and stepchildren. Have a blessed Father’s Day!
Peace & Blessings,