Healthy Inner Living and Being Good to YOURSELF! Part I
May 5, 2009 by Diane Greene
Filed under Daily Dose
“LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND EVERYTHING FALLS INTO LINE…..Lucille Ball”
I just finished reading an awesome book called “The Courage to be a Step-Mom” by Sue Patton Thoele. Ms. Thoele has written many books about women finding the courage to be themselves and in this book she talks about, in particular, step-mom’s finding their place within the blended family without losing themselves and who they are in the process of finding that place of solace. She also talks about how important it is for us women (moms or step-moms) to be good to ourselves, to take care of US.
One statement in her book stood out to me the most as a step-mom and that is “understanding that one of the most beneficial results of self-care is an increased ability to love others which allows us to care for ourselves more gently and completely.”
As mothers and step-mothers in our never-ending busy daily lives, it seems impossible to put ourselves in front of our children, our husbands, work, our respective households and all of the extra-curricular activities ta boot! What we fail to realize is that if we women fail to appreciate ourselves and approve of ourselves, we cannot, in fact, be of a benefit to our families or our friends. As Ms. Thoele so eloquently stated, “self-love is not selfishness or self-centeredness, it is quite the contrary.”
TODAY BFSO family readers:
1. Be good to yourself;
2. Accept who you are;
3. Share your knowledge;
4. Learn and face your feelings;
5. Express yourself;
6. Act Constructively; AND MOST IMPORTANTLY,
7. HONOR YOU!
Peace & Blessings Always,
Di
p.s. More healthy inner living to follow!!!!


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