It is no surprise that with all the stress of family life, we as couples don’t take enough time out to nuture our marriages and relationships. In order to grow together as a couple, we have to be able to enjoy one another’s company and we cannot do that with all the distractions that come along with our day-to-day lives. Of course, our children are important to us but our marriages have to be more important. That seems odd to think about for most people, but as husbands and wives, we have to accept that in order to be any good to our children as a couple, our marriages and remarriages have to be the first priority. These times we share alone together not only allow us to grow, but they allow us to rekindle the reason why we fell in love in the first place.
We cannot let the spark die in our (re)marriages. There is more to it than just “going out” and having time alone. It’s about sharing your love and creating understanding and feeling the true companionship between the two of you. For example, remember when you couldn’t wait for a date night with your mate before you got married? Well, unfortunatley, when we get married, at times we fall into the trap of thinking that all of that has to end because we have a ring on our finger and a piece of paper confirming our status. Having anticipation for one another doesn’t have to be lost in married life. If money is an issue, even on a limited budget, you can have a fabulous drama-free date night with your spouse. The lesson here is that as (re)married couples, we need to continue to courting one another as we did in the beginning in order to seize our marriages and make them all the more fulfilling.
Here are a few ideas to help you along the way:
- No kids allowed! No excuses. Make an arrangement with a babysitter, and older sibling, a friend or a grandparent.
- Catch a movie or a matinee together.
- Go shopping together! Your lady will love this one!
- Get away for a night to a hotel just the two of you.
- Set a dinner date night twice a month. (This can be either at home — after the kids go to bed or out to a restaurant – which would be my preference.
If you are financially strained, here are a few fun options:
- Have a date night at home. Try to arrange the kids to be elsewhere and order pizza and a movie and have at it!
- Go for a drive. My husband and I do this all the time. This may not seem like a date, but being this is semi-free (with the exception of gas), you may be able to splurge for a cheap hotel room for a few hours! Who says married couples can’t be a bit naughty from time to time.
- Begin a project together. This is another great one that I love. Say you have been talking about painting that room for a year. Well, get rid of the kiddos for the evening, buy that gallon of paint and the two of you get at it. It’s not just something you can make romantic, but it is also improving on something the two of you share, your home.
- Cook together. Decide upon what your menu should be and cook together. Nothing is more romantic to me than sharing the kitchen and having your husband nuzzle up to your neck while you are both “trying” to concentrate on the menu at hand.
- Read a book together, look at old photos, etc. You can even watch your favorite television programs together or play a board game after the children go to sleep.
- Wash the car. This is very romantic if you make it that way! Fun fun!
- Take a long walk together as often as you can.
- Put the music on and dance, dance, dance!
- Go to an old fashioned drive-in movie.
- Plan out your goals together.
Remember, having a drama free date night is your way of keeping your romance and marriage alive. Don’t be afraid to show your passion for one another. It doesn’t take a lot of money, just a commitment to one another. This commitment is what your children see and learn from. It is what teaches them what to expect from a healthy marriage. Reach back to when you first began together, a whole lot of money wasn’t needed to have a fun, romantic and special time together. As Keith Sweat so eloquently sang…”Make it Last Forever!”
Peace & Blessings,