I love music! It is clearly one of the most powerful tools for expression. There’s just something about a great song that has the ability to touch my soul. It touches it in a way that makes me truly feel and relate to what the artist is trying to express. Some of my favorite artists are Rascal Flats, Bonnie Rait, Alicia Keys, Sam Cooke, Amel Larrieux, Michael Jackson and countless others.
Rascal Flats song, What Hurts the Most, reminds me that I never want to be in a position of regret with my husband. I never want to allow the drama to infiltrate our marriage in such a way that I neglect to say the things that I’ve wanted to say and that I know he needs to hear. Below is the course.
What hurts the most is being so close; having so much to say, but watching you walk away. And never knowing what could have been and not seeing that loving you is what I was trying to do.
And Michael Jackson’s, Lady in my Life, is a song that reminds me of how I want to continue loving my husband.
Baby through the years even when we’re old and gray I will love you more each day cause you will always be the lady (man) in my life.
Whether that emotion is pain, happiness, love or lust, music is a great form of communication. It allows couples to express themselves when they are at a loss for words and need to apologize for something. It also another great exercise for couples to use as yet another way to remind the other of their love for him or her. You can play the song that you first kissed to, the song that you first danced to at your wedding, or the song that just reminds you of how you feel for your spouse. All are great ways to remind your spouse just how much he or she means to you, are bound to bring back some sweet memories and even help create some new ones.
Additionally, music has the ability to allow couples who have lost the connection to reconnect or to strengthen an existing connection. As a matter of fact, a homework assignment that I give to my clients who are either stuck in the drama and need to be reminded to focus on them, or who just need to express the inexpressible, is a music exercise. They are instructed to choose a song that explains how they feel about their mate. Then they play the song for him or her and explain why they chose it. Couples often times get very emotional during this exercise because music evokes emotion in such a way that the person you’re expressing yourself to truly understands. If both parties are committed to the exercise, it is an excellent way to build couple strength.
So play your favorite love song for your hubby or wife. Get him or her in the mood with the Isley Brother’s song, In Between the Sheets, or let him or her know that You’ll Love Him Like You’ll Never See Him Again, by Alicia Keys. No matter what the reason or just for no reason at all, go and express yourself.