Valentine Krispy Kisses With The Kids

  Everyone knows that Valentine’s Day is for lovers but we here at Today’s Modern Family didn’t want to leave out the kids that mean so much to us on Valentine’s Day so I thought I would inject a little bit of fun that I often share with my two younger children.   It’s a fun little project and one that will create a special memory with your kids and plus…who in the world doesn’t like Krispy Treats?   Enjoy!

Ingredients:

1 food or oil funnel (can be found at any dollar store or in the houseware section of your local store)
3 Tablespoons butter or margarine
1 package (10 oz., about 40) regular marshmallows
- OR -
4 cups miniature marshmallows
6 cups Krispy Rice cereal
Food coloring (optional)

Directions:

1. In large saucepan melt butter over low heat. Add marshmallows and stir until completely melted. Remove from heat.

2. Add cereal. Stir until well coated.  Stir in food coloring (optional).

3. Use funnel and press krispies into the funnel and pull mold off. 

4.  Wrap in plastic wrap and then in tin foil and place a strip of tissue paper (cut thinly) with your favorite message written on the paper and  wrap foil around part of the paper to give the krispy that special Kiss look.

Have fun making memories!

Diane

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Personal Thanks to Our Readers!

Hi Readers!

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I hope you all had  a very Happy Thanksgiving! Thanksgiving with my husband, children, brother, sister-in-law, nieces, nephews, mom and a host of cousins was absolutely wonderful. It was also my baby boy’s first Thanksgiving and I was happy that he could be surrounded by family. Incidentally, I want to share with you a little something that my firstborn said while riding in the car to see the downtown Christmas lights today. Often times, he just fires out these statements without any proding or prompting; just thoughts in his very mature, analytical head that come out just because.

  “You know what mom and dad (he calls my husband dad), I have A LOT of family! I have you two and your sides of the family, my other dad and other mom and their sides of the family and brothers and a sister and I love it,” he said.

To which we replied by telling him how absolutely fortunate he is to feel loved by and to give love to, so many people. It warmed my heart to know that this is what he thinks about, from time to time and shares for no reason at all. This is what he feels because of what we [his parents] are conveying to him, and I think to myself – gosh, we must be do something right. I’m not saying we’re perfect because we all have had our share of disagreements and strife, but we’ve done our best to work them out AND we’ve shielded him from any conflict that could have been damaging long-term. Instead, he sees a family that loves him and works together; and yes, a family that experiences conflict, from time to time. However, he also witnesses us (parents and co-parents) putting our heads together to work it out and for this, I am thankful for.

I am also thankful for all of you! Thanks to all of my readers and supporters of Today’s Modern Family. Thank you for sharing your stories and allowing me to share mine. Thanks for venting your frustrations and allowing me to do the same. Thanks for listening and thanks for making others feel as if they are not alone on their respective journeys. More importantly, thanks for opening my mind to new perspectives. I enjoy learning from and I appreciate each and every one of you!

~Kela

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Thanksgiving Day Emergencies!

turkey1Call 911….or at least Mom or Grandma!  I know that every person responsible for the grand Thanksgiving Day meal has had their share of last-minute emergencies.  My own have been a variety to say the least.  I know Kela has had hers as well.  Last year, she took on the daunting task of going not so traditional and doing Lamb as her main course.  The lamb turned out great, but she was worried it wouldn’t be done in time.  My worst experience came when I cooked my first Thanksgiving meal.  I left the bag with the giblets, heart, etc. in the turkey and baked it right along with Mr. Tom Turkey….I had no idea there was  a bag in the turkey, why would I?  It was my first time cooking.

Many friends of mine have made the god awful mistake of not thawing the Turkey out in time, burning the Turkey and even running out of Turkey!  So, readers, let us in on your secrets.  What was your craziest 911 Thanksgiving emergency?  We’d love to hear them and might even have a few tips and tricks for you as well.

So, for all you cooks out there, I can’t wait to hear your funny stories.

Happy Gobbling!

Diane

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What’s the Link in Your Chain?

Charmante ältere FrauYou’re probably asking  yourself….the link in your chain?  What does she mean?  Well, as the end of the year gets closer and good memories of times past seem abundant, I began to think about the link in my chain.  What ties me so personally to these certain memories and why I cherish them so much.  For starters, I am a big believer in “making memories” as I call it.  I think it all began being raised by a single parent and not having much money to do extra-curricular activities and stuff a lot of the other children I grew up around got to do (i.e., go to Disney World, fun amusement parks, yearly vacations, etc.).  However, our lives were filled with picnics on the Potomac River (which was a block from our home), beautiful car rides once every weekend where we would find a different route to take each time, and of course, imagination!  We would head to the free national museums in Washington, DC which was only a short drive from our home.  We didn’t have much, but we had a lot of love.  My grandparents came to visit us at holidays and every Summer.  That is where the link in my chain starts.  I would watch both of my sets of grandparents cook.  Therefore, I fell in love with cooking.  My grandfather made the best breakfasts and my grandmothers, well, I needn’t say anything more.  She would throw down in the kitchen!  So, every weekend, I get out my link, my grandmother’s cookbook, and I look at her handwritten notes next to recipes that she liked or didn’t like, and try to prepare them just as she did.  My great-grandmother even made some notes in that same cookbook!  What a treasure it is to me.  As, I go through my time with that cookbook, I get re-filled with lots of loving memories.  I am reading a beautiful book called Miriam’s Kitchen  by Elizabeth Ehrlich.  This true and absolutely beautiful story did for me just what I am asking you to tell us….have you found the link in your chain?  If so, we would love to hear it!

So TMF readers, what makes you the most happy?  What gives  you complete satisfaction in your life?  We love hearing your stories and learning from our readers just as much as we loving sharing ours with you.

Peace & Blessings,
Di

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Wall Therapy

Check out these great options for your walls

1. Modern Wallpaper

Photo: www.burkedecor.com

Prints are back! But this isn’t your grandmother’s wallpaper. Fussy floral designs and passé paisley prints-definitely out. These days you can find some seriously cool patterned paper to adorn your walls. Used strategically, wallpaper is like the icing on the cake for any space that needs to be kicked up a notch. Like window treatments, wallpaper can really finish a room. Check out www.burkdecor.com for more styles. I love this one! It’s perfect for a hallway or a wall in a home office.

2. Stencils

Photo: http://www.etsy.com/listing/42930016/wall-stencil-anemone-grande-large-size

Wall stencils are a fresh alternative to framed wall art and a creative way to add an artistic flair to a drab space. You’ve seen them used in children’s rooms (think Winnie the Pooh, Tigger and the gang), but they’re not just for kids anymore. Check out some fun yet sophisticated options here:

http://www.etsy.com/shop/CuttingEdgeStencils.

Another neat thing about stencils is that you can also use them to amp up your flooring!

3. Decals

Photo: www.ragingvinyl.com

How cool are wall decals?! With so many different designs to choose from, you’re sure to find one to suit your space. And because they peel off easily, you can change the look of your room on a whim without spending a lot of time or money.

4. Chalkboard Paint

Photo: www.remodelista.com

Mommy tip: Need to keep your children occupied while you’re washing dishes or cooking dinner? Paint a wall in your kitchen with chalkboard paint! Kids can write, draw and create where you can keep an eye on the little monsters. Easy to clean, it’s the perfect spot to leave fun messages or reminders for the family. It’s also a great place to hang the kids’ art work. Oh, and if you’re having a dinner party, try displaying your menu creatively on your handy kitchen chalkboard. ; )

Which one will you try?

rayneeRaynée Crowe, TMF’s primary modern home contributor, is an interior decorating consultant who ironically never considered herself creative, and then one day the ‘ol proverbial light bulb went off.  Her love for mixing and matching colors, patterns and decorating had manifested itself into daydreaming of color swatches, textiles and room arrangements.  That passion and excitement grew and soon it was pure enjoyment as she worked with friends and clients to select color pallets, accessories, furniture and arrange spaces.  Finally she understood the saying “if you do what you love you’ll never work a day in your life” and so in 2008 Color Vision LLC was born.  For more information, you can email Raynee at yourcolorvision@gmail.com.

For more great tips and ideas, check out her blog at www.yourcolorvision.wordpress.com.

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Summer’s Coming…Are you Ready?

summercampIf you’re like me, the winter season, although I love it, can feel like it drags on forever.  Spring hits and we are itching for Summer days.  However, for parents with young children, Summer can be stressful.  School is out and it’s time to find a good Summer camp.  This Summer, my little boy will go away to an overnight camp for the first time for a whole week.  I would be remiss to say that I am not terrified, but I am.  My son, however, is elated.  It’s a major sports camp so for him, it is heaven on earth.

While doing my research on out-of-state camps, I came across a great article written by Barbara Rowley of Parenting Magazine entitled “How to Pick the Right Summer Camp for Your Kid.”  In her article, Ms. Rowley discusses the struggles parents face in deciding to send their children off to camp.  For example, “why does camp really matter anyway?”  According to camp officials, camp, they say, let’s children roam and play in a way they rarely do in their own neighborhoods and it takes them away from computers, video games and swaps them for conversation, fun and games in a natural setting.

Bingo!  The above statements ring so true.  Children nowadays are stuck in the house.  They are less social, over-weight and totally under-exercised.  All of this is as a result of our ever changing, high-tech world.  Now, do I think that we should go totally back to the days before computers?  Absolutely not!  However, there should be a healthy balance.  For us parents who played outside until the street lights came on, went off to camp every Summer for 2 or 3 weeks and experienced the joys of swimming in the lake, hiked small mountain sides, made smores and had sing-alongs, our kids don’t know what they are missing!

If you are thinking about sending your little one off this Summer, whether that be for a day or overnight Summer camp, here are a few tips from Ms. Rowley’s article to help you navigate through the process:

  • Do your homework.  When choosing a day camp, it’s smart to talk to camp directors before making any decision.
  • Check the history of the camp.  There are great new camps, but older camps who have operated for decades does mean something.
  • What is their philosophy?  Does it focus on sports?  Arts? Leadership?  How is this philosophy integrated into its programs?
  • An emphasis on creating community.  Good camps think about how they place kids together to create the most inclusive experience for all.  Another hallmark of community:  A scholarship program.
  • A well-trained staff.  In adequate numbers for a low campers-to-staffers ratio (about 10 to 1 for kids ages 8 to 14).  The staff should be background-checked, too, with references, an interview, and a criminal records search.
  • An element of choice.  Your child will feel more independent if he can choose some activities.

Peg Smith, Chief Executive Officer of the American Camp Association says that day camp is a good starting point for children.  She says, “Kids learn about being part of a community and to cope with temporary separation.  They’re not only a good transitional step for kids but also for parents, who often need to learn these same separation skills.”  Personally, I totally agree.  We parents, [myself included] get too attached to our little ones and we don’t always allow them to learn how to separate from us and become independent.  As Ms. Rowley’s fabulous article reminds us, camps are a great, safe way to take those steps.   Not only do children come home more independent, but they come home with a life time of memories and skills.

I’ll be taking my first step with my young one in July…Wish me luck!

Peace & Blessings,
Di

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Overwhelmed and Disconnected in a Tough Economy

mankissneckToday, trying to cultivate a balance between home and work life can be severely stressful. The effects of being overwhelmed and stressed can directly affect the relationship you have with your husband or wife, leaving both of you feeling disconnected. Of course, with the hard economic times currently affecting not just the United States, but every country in the world at this time, these feelings of disconnection become even more extreme with the added pressures of money stress.

The majority of women in the daily workforce in this country are overwhelmed, overworked and extremely disconnected, especially with themselves. They leave their homes to work 8 hours or more daily, come back home to shuffle the children to and from their activities, cook, clean, help with homework, etc., only to start all over again the next day. With this, they leave themselves little or no time for themselves or their spouses. “Exhausted and overwhelmed,” can’t fully explain what some women and men are dealing with during these hard times and I have to admit, I’ve been there, done that myself.

Unfortunately, overwork has also been proven to exacerbate our ongoing health conditions both mentally, physically and emotionally as well. Overwork has been linked to anxiety, depression and many other chronic stress-related disorders. It causes physical pain as well.

Of course, behind all of this is the disconnection with your spouse that can be directly related to this “overworked” syndrome. You give your all to your job during the day, you come home to another 4-6 hours of domestic work including caring for your children and your spouse gets the rest of you. What’s left of you that is – which at times, for your spouse, can seem like and feel like nothing. Women aren’t the only ones affected by being overworked. Due to our challenging economic times today, husbands are working two jobs and sometimes three job and overtime just to make ends meet; finding themselves also becoming disconnected with their wives and family. However, trying to reassess our situations is not easy when there are bills that need to be paid. Finding ways to balance our lives and putting our priorities in order is crucial. Here are a few ways you can achieve balance in order to avoid becoming disconnected:

  • Don’t overschedule yourself. If the children’s activities are becoming too much for you to handle, limit each child to one activity outside of the home per week.
  • Take some scheduled “time-out” space just for yourself.  Even if it means heading to the nearest Starbucks for an hour or two of reading or to the nearest public library for some quiet time.  Taking care of yourself, first, is crucial to your individual happiness.
  • Romance your spouse. You don’t have to go out of the home to do this. Send the children to a babysitter or relative’s house for a couple of hours and have your own special time. Cook a simple dinner, eat together, spend quality time together.
  • Work as a team. Do not allow outside influences and stresses to pull you apart. Daily stresses can put enormous pressure on your relationship with your spouse, pick your battles and let go of pettiness.
  • Communicate daily. Make a special effort to have good conversation with your spouse.
  • Eat meals together. Absorb one another’s wisdom. Showing keen interest in one another and your daily routines will bring you closer
  • Laugh together as much as you can. Laughter is good for the soul and for your marriage.

And most importantly,

  • PRAY TOGETHER. As the old saying goes. A family that prays together, stays together!

Sustaining a connection with your spouse should be the rule instead of the exception during tough times.  Obtaining this takes a commitment to be individually connected to ourselves, happy and healthy emotionally, physically and mentally as well. The end result will be that the both of you will be collectively committed to one another no matter what the future beholds you.

Peace & Blessings,
Di

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Chicken Fettuccine Alfredo

chickenfettuciniThis recipe is so comforting and yummy!  I tried it out on my son, Lamont, because he is my resident foodie and will try anything I make.  I originally found this recipe in one of my favorite magazines, Simple and Delicious.  I hope you enjoy this as much as we have!

Ingredients:
1 package (12 oz) of fettuccine
8 bacon strips, cut into 1-in pieces
1 pound boneless skinless chicken breast, cubed
2 cups sliced mushrooms (optional – I don’t use them)
6 green onions, thinly sliced
1 garlic clove, minced
1-1/2 cup half and half cream
½ cup shredded Parmesan cheese
1 teaspoon paprika
½ tsp. coarsely ground pepper

Cook fettuccine according to package directions.  In a large skillet, cook bacon until crisp.  Drain on paper towels reserving ½ Tbsp. drippings.  Sauté chicken in drippings until it’s no longer pink.  Add the mushrooms, green onions and garlic; sauté until all are tender.  Stir in cream, cheese, paprika and pepper.  Reduce heat; simmer, uncovered, for 5-10 minutes.  Stir in the reserved bacon.  Drain fettuccine; place in a serving bowl.  Add chicken mixture; toss to coat.  Garnish with additional cheese if preferred.

Peace & Blessings,
Di

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Teach Your Children to be Independent Not Co-Dependent

“Foster independence among your children. Encourage them to cook,
clean, and contribute.” — Brian Tracy

momgirldishwashingParenting is never easy. If it were then every single person in this world would be a parent. There is no owner’s manual (unfortunately) to parenting so we often learn as we go – and that’s alright! No one is perfect and our kids should see that as well.

The quote above was so good I just had to share. Some think that the more “things” we give our kids and the more we let them have their way and the more we do things for them the better they’ll be to take on the world. But we are actually hindering their development by doing so. Lessons are always learned on the other side of a mistake. Some mistakes are worse than others but all teach a lesson. If we never let our children learn things on their own then the only thing they will know is how to be co-dependent.

Now we all want better for our children than we had it. We strive to make a better life for them and give them the things we never had. There is nothing wrong with wanting more for ourselves and our families. We just need to be careful how much importance we place on the ideology of having more things means you’re successful in life. Things are an outward way of showing success or insecurity. Some feel that they have to “keep up with the Jones’” to feel important and in doing just that they go into more debt just to put on a show. That’s not what we want to teach our children.

By having your children cook, clean, and contribute as the author of the quote above states, you are encouraging a good work ethic and also diminishing the sense of entitlement a lot of children seem to have these days. Everyone has to work for something. Whether it is a new car, a new pair of shoes, or even getting your home repaired. Children should require no less. They should know how it feels to accomplish a goal and THEN receive the reward. Not getting the reward for just being a kid (Sometimes that’s good too though – in moderation).

Having chores or having your children participate in making dinner is a great way to integrate good morals in your kids. Eating together is another way to form bonds as a family. Letting your kids have a voice is great and that encourages self esteem and self worth in your children. There is a difference in letting your kids have a voice and respecting that and letting them get their way – YOU are still the parent.

Obviously there are child labor laws for a reason so don’t take this and run with it – but there are many positive aspects in having your children become contributing members of your household. If your kids are small then let them help unload the dishwasher or let them add ingredients while baking. If your kids are tweens, let them begin to watch younger siblings in small increments of time or give them a specific part of the house that they are in charge of keeping clean. If your kids are teenagers or older, have them mow the grass or shovel the driveway in the winter, and a part-time job is also a great way to prepare them and give them a taste of the real world.

Parenting is trial and error. We all hope that the trials outweigh the errors, but like I said no one is perfect. Try and keep balance in your home between work, family time, school, and social events. The more your kids feel a part of something the better your family will run.

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Alternatives to the traditional holiday dinner

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Leg of Lamb

Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner menus, for many families, have the same old thing on them. Families usually fill themselves up on turkey, dressing, green beans, sweet potatoes, sweet potato pie, green bean casserole and mashed potatoes until they bust. It’s always been kind of crazy to me that these two holidays are only a month apart from each other, yet the menus are identical. As such, I am growing sick and tired of the same old thing. If I eat another piece of turkey, I’m going to start gobbling! Therefore, I decided that it’s okay to break away from the traditional and try something different on Christmas. I won’t be struck with some holiday curse for doing so, will I?

When I asked others if they were having the traditional meal this year, to my surprise, many were not. A few said that they planned to have a seafood feast for Christmas dinner this year. Others were having steak and prime rib roasts for dinner. Those who live in warmer climates during this time of year decided to cookout this year. All of these are fabulous alternatives to the traditional holiday dinner, and a few just might find themselves on  my holiday menus in the years to come. Tomorrow, however, I decided to prepare a baked leg of lamb, shrimp scampi served over rotini, corn on the cob, baked potatoes and chocolate cake…yummy! It will be a nice break from the norm and my family was totally excited about my plan for something new. It turns out that they were sick of turkey and dressing a long time ago as well.

What are your plans for Christmas dinner this year?

Happy Holidays!

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