With all the stresses in our daily lives today, the most forgotten gift we can give our spouse is romance. For example, last week, my husband came home late from working his second job with a pretty bag in his hand, he bent over to kiss me and said ”I know you always put yourself last–thank you for being such a good wife.” In the bag was a brand new outfit for me! What a man! Now that’s romantic. It’s not romantic because he bought me some material thing, but because of his thought process. Like many families in these hard economic times, he works two jobs so we don’t get to spend a lot of extra time together. The one day a weekend that we really see one another seems to fly right by and he thought by giving me something special he was showing me that he is always thinking about me.
Finding ways to be romantic with your husband or wife is not always as easy as it seems. Men do not always admit that they like to be romanced, but they like to connect just as much as us women do. Women like to be surprised where romance for a man is a confident, supportive woman. Men do not like insecure women. A man feels romanced when he is able to take his woman to a movie or a basketball game and she feels confident in her skin at either place.
With the men I spoke with about this issue, one of the main attributes of ultimate romance to them was the ability of a woman to be supportive, to stand by them, to encourage him that if he fails at something, he should try again. The second attribute they discussed was emotional. Men like to be told what they mean to you and how you are attracted to them. They appreciate hearing a little praise every now and then.
Women on the other hand like candles, sunrises and sunsets. They love when you remember their birthdays and anniversaries. They like flowers every now and then and a romantic dinner. Often times, a husband just making an effort to make dinner and/or cleaning up the house is a romantic gesture in and of itself. It is telling your wife with actions that you appreciate her and all she does. Scoring tickets to an important game for your husband is telling him with actions that you appreciate his hard work.
The most important aspect of romance is time. Your time is special. Even if it is only for an evening once a month on a weekend. It means so much. Taking time to reignite your love for your spouse is an amazing gift that you can give yourself. So, call the babysitter and make it happen BFSO readers! Get that romance rolling!
Peace & Blessings,