There has been a growing trend over the past few years and that is single parenting by choice. A recent morning program featuring two women discussing the subject of “choosing single motherhood” sparked my interest. According to the US Census Bureau, almost one-third of the children in the United States are being raised in single parent households and the demographics of single parents are usually women in their mid to late 30′s who have at least a four year college education.
During the program, two women were on discussing how much healthier they thought it was to be raised by a single mom because in their opinion, the child had a say in most of the major decision making that took place in the household and therefore, felt happier and more well-rounded because of it. That part of the conversation I did not agree with. In my opinion, children, whether they are in a single parent home or in a two parent, traditional home, need not to be making parental decisions period, end of story. They are children. They should not have to worry about parental duties as children.
Due to the high divorce rate, a good portion of these women, in the absence of a healthy relationship, have decided to branch out and have children, without partnership. Although alone, they feel that rather than being in a relationship they are not happy with and having children, they see being a loving, healthy single parent as a viable option.
With that being said, I can see where a woman might choose this option, however, this subject begs the question, “is it really fair for a child not to have two parents? Considering the dilemma regarding absent fathers as it is in the United States, is it really healthy to promote single parenthood with the assumption that the father of the child will have no involvement from the beginning? Doesn’t every child deserve to have the satisfaction of having two parents? I know that every day, children are abandoned by an absent parent (whether that be a mother or a father), and every day, a woman is forced into single motherhood, but is it actually fair to CHOOSE this route?
TMF readers, I would love to hear your opinions and thoughts on this subject. Being a single parent in the past for many years myself, I know how hard that was for me. As I have discussed in prior posts, it was during that time in my life that I was able to truly define myself as an individual and as a mother. However, if it had been my CHOICE, I wouldn’t have had it that way. It was hard to raise my children without a father. Children need their fathers. As a mother of boys, I could do my best to teach them how to be men, but as a woman, it was a challenge.
Although I respect these women’s position and opinion, I personally feel that choosing to be a single mother is not always in the best interest of the children involved.
I’d love to hear your opinion.
Peace & Blessings,
Di
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