Divorce – Who Needs Furniture?

An excerpt from the book, Divorce, Who Needs Furniture Anyway?

I never would have thought it could happen to me. I have spent endless days evaluating the things that has brought me to this moment of truth. I am going through a divorce. I am single again. What was a ten year investment has crashed like the economy and I find myself handed a pink slip reminding me that I am no longer needed for my services. I am beyond crying I am shell shocked, as I look at her boxes as they fill a home that was designed for us. I flip channels on the TV because I can only assume that this is a romantic movie and somehow the love and romance will soon spark and somehow it will be fixed. Needless to say that time never came as I still get caught in ignoring the world around me as it is packed away. I sit and sip wine as if you were still sitting here. Only to remind myself that it was only my imagination, that you have never sat next to me. Feeling disgusted that i am caught dreaming about a dream. Dreaming of a world by which two people are in love with the thought of being in love. That we both live in a world of us and and everything else is just in it. That time never arrived as the movers have pulled up to the house. I was naive to the warning signs. That this marriage was long over, I guess when communication was like having a business meeting and sex was like an appointment, that just might be a sign that the relationship is over. However, I loved as If I was blind. While the movers start loading the truck.

We sit and talk for the last time, civil like friends. Reflect on the good times you wish me the best and I tell you I hope you find the happiness you could not find in me. Then we both agree that our little girl would stay with me and we will raise her together. Then Bobby the mover asked are you about ready. You nod with a yes. We hug for the last time. I walk you to the door I wave as you get into your car and drive away. As I locked the door, an epiphany in my heart arose that I was locking a door to season of my life that was over. That my life at this point would forever be different. The way I look at my life, love, and relationships will forever be changed.

I cry because I feel free to love again, but I am nervous about starting over again. Optimistic about the new life that I will design for me and my child, nevertheless scared of failure. Wanting to date but stuck with 1993 pick up lines. I have a swag that is unbelievable but I will not play games. Wanting to get my groove on but I am stuck reading bedtime stories and watching Hannah Montana. Refuse to parent from a cell phone as I try to start my life over again. Have to get my hustle on but the daycare close at 5:30 and bedtime is at 8. My parents say I doing a good job, I said that this is all their fault. That they cursed me, that all they have ever taught me was how to be married, I don’t know how to be single. I would have never thought that this would be apart of my journey. Who would have ever thought that Love would have to learn how to love again . What the hell, who needs furniture anyway. She left me with a TV and the Nintendo Wii.

Antonio Love is a recently divorced father who is currently raising his daughter. He is also the author of Talking What Ya Want and Divorce, Who Needs Furniture Anyway. For more information on Antonio Love and his movement, please visit www.antoniolove.com.

Supermodel,Tyson Beckford’s Blended Family

A U.S. reality TV stylist has revealed her 10-year-old son’s father is model/actor TYSON BECKFORD.

April Roomet has become a hit on TV show Candy Girls and her sudden fame has brought questions about her son, Jordan. The stylist has revealed her kid is the product of a romance with Beckford.

She tells America’s In Touch magazine, “I’ve never talked about Tyson… (He’s just) daddy, that’s Tyson, not supermodel Tyson.”

Roomet, who has styled stars like Snoop Dogg and Dr. Dre, reveals she met Beckford when she was working as a waitress in a Los Angeles restaurant, and the pair began a torrid romance.

She credits Beckford for standing by her when she discovered she was pregnant with his son, and admits neither of them wanted to wed.

She adds, “We were on and off for years after Jordan was born. Being on different coasts and so busy with our careers, the timing wasn’t right… Maybe later, down the line, we’ll get it together and figure it out. “Tyson’s been very supportive of my career. We’re still friends and good parents, which is most important.”

My Perspective: I had the opportunity to catch an episode of Candy Girls one evening which featured Roomet, Beckford and their son, Jordan. What I saw was disheartening. Beckford was in town for one day to visit Roomet and their son and when he was leaving Jordan was in tears because he didn’t want him to leave. Beckford said that it’s hard on a kid who has two parents in the industry. He’s a supermodel, actor and host of hit reality show, Make me a Supermodel and she’s a celebrity stylist. Roomet then said how she had to be the strong mom and pick up the pieces for her son. Still, she didn’t seem bitter at all by Beckford’s actions.

I am all too familiar with this type of situation as my ex is an overseas basketball player who goes without seeing his son for 10 months at a time. This is unfathomable to me. I just don’t understand how one could go that long without seeing a child that they claim to love so much. I definitely understand work schedules and situations, but you can’t utilize some of your down time to swing by more often to visit with your son? It would mean a great deal to him and benefit your relationship as well!

At any rate, Roomet also made tons of references and directly stated that it has just never been the right time for her and Beckford to permanently get together, although she knows their son would love it. Unfortunately, since the taping of this episode, Tyson allegedly married UK born entreprenuer, Berneice Julien.

 I say – what about Jordan? Who cares if it’s the right time for your relationship? It should always be the right time for Jordan. As such, sacrifices have to be made in order to be better parents for him, and the best parents are ones who are there. Sure, it might mean that one of you have to stop working as much, change locations and get out of the limelight, but isn’t it worth it for Jordan? You’ve both had amazing careers so maybe it’s time to scale down a bit for his sake. What I will say is that after watching that episode I can see that you two could be great co-parents together. Most exes can’t stand the sight of each other, so I hope you realize just how lucky you are. In doing so, I hope that you take the first step and make a few sacrifices so that you BOTH can be there for Jordan.

BFSO wishes all the best to the Roomet/Beckford family. This one doesn’t have to end in blended family madness.

Bristol Palin Break up

Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston are both single parents now. The young couple who welcomed their son, Tripp Easton Mitchell Johnston two months ago, have gone their seperate ways.

During Sarah Palin’s candidacy for Vice-President she has been very candid about her support for her daughter. She once had high hopes for the young couple and their future as a family.

Bristol and Levi during the election. Photo:REUTERS/Rick Wilking

“The road ahead for this young couple will not be easy, but nothing worthwhile is ever easy,” Sarah Palin said in January, a few days after Tripp’s birth. “Bristol and Levi are committed to accomplish what millions of other young parents have accomplished, to provide a loving and secure environment for their child.”

It has been allegedly reported that Bristol is making it difficult for Levi to see two month old Tripp. Hopefully, they get it together enough to actually adhere to Sarah Palin’s words and begin to provide a loving and secure enviroment for their son no matter where his parent’s reside.

BFSO wishes this young couple luck with raising their little bundle of joy!

Information on this story was found on Eonline. To read more please visit the link below.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/eonline/20090312/en_celeb_eo/103969

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